Understanding the Cycle of Abuse When Leaving an Abusive Marriage

YUMA, Arizona. The #MeToo movement has resulted in some positive changes in workplaces and in the media. The nation is having an honest and sometimes difficult conversation about struggles women sometimes face in the workplace, when dating, or when just trying to go about their everyday lives. Yet, according to the New York Times
, one group of women the #MeToo movement seems to have left behind are those who have suffered from domestic abuse, violence, or controlling relationships. At a time where more women are empowered to take control of the narrative, some women still struggle to understand why others choose to stay in abusive relationships. These women may sometimes struggle to get support from friends, family, or co-workers. There remains a great deal of stigma around women who stay in abusive relationships and when others don’t understand the powerful cycle of violence that entraps some women in violent or emotionally abusive relationships, the women who need the most help may sometimes struggle to get the help they need.

If you’re struggling with whether to leave an abusive marriage, you are not alone. Leaving an abusive marriage can be incredibly challenging. The cycle of abuse is powerful and financial ties, ties of children, and ties of family can make the idea of filing for divorce daunting or all but impossible for some. According to Help Guide
, the cycle of abuse can also be subtle, especially if a person is in a verbally abusive relationship. Abuse can take on many forms: it can be a put down, name-calling, gaslighting (in which you are lied to or are made to feel “crazy” for believing what you believe), yelling, threats to hurt you or others, and can escalate to actual threats and violence. After abuse happens, the abuser may feel guilt and may apologize. The abuser may act normal for a period, and the relationship may feel like it is healing. But, eventually the abuser plans another act of abuse and the cycle continues.

If you or a loved one is suffering in an abusive marriage, it is important to get help. The National Domestic Violence Hotline
offers immediate support for individuals struggling with issues of abuse in their own lives. They can be reached at 1-800-799-7233. Speaking to a qualified divorce lawyer like Schneider & Onofry, P.C. in Yuma, Arizona
can also give you the tools you need to break free. If financial troubles or financial freedom are a concern, our attorneys can help you better understand your options and rights. If your ex is threatening to take the children if you get a divorce, a qualified divorce law firm like Schneider & Onofry, P.C. may be able to help you file a restraining order and put together evidence when the time comes to fight for custody of your children to protect your children.

An abusive marriage can be incredibly challenging to your self-esteem. If you are hurting, you are not alone. A divorce lawyer may be able to help.

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